Miscarriage is the most terrible thing that can happen in the life of a pregnant woman dreaming of a child… This is a real tragedy, pain and a well-founded fear that this may happen again in the future. Natalia Kharchenko experienced this grief five times, but despite everything, she continued to fight for her dream and never lost faith in the best. With the hope that her story will inspire other women to never lose heart, Natalia told about her painful experience of miscarriage in our blog:
“My story began in 2005, when I got pregnant for the first time. Then I was sure that every pregnancy ends with the birth of a child, and I will not be an exception to this “rule”. And suddenly something went wrong and I was already lying on the bed in the hospital after the first miscarriage in my life…”.
Unfortunately, Natalia’s struggle for her cherished dream has just begun: her second pregnancy turned out to be “frozen”, and the third, despite treatment, numerous examinations and warnings, she lost at the 5-month term:
“I won’t write much about my state of mind at that time. I can only say that no amount of time is able to cure such pain! I hated the phrase “everything will be fine”, which those who were aware of my trouble tried to console me with. Even now I don’t say that, I always say: “it will be as it should be, and time will tell whether it is good or bad.”
After losing my third pregnancy, my diagnosis sounded “habitual miscarriage.” And I already knew that each subsequent loss reduces the chances of carrying a “normal” pregnancy. Therefore, at the onset of the fourth pregnancy, on the day of the positive test result, I went to the maternity ward for “preservation”, where I was already well known. But three weeks later I was discharged with a diagnosis of “frozen pregnancy” – so I lost her for the fourth time!
It’s amazing that after that loss I realized that I was used to such a state. I no longer had tantrums, depressions and the rhetorical question “Why?” I realized that I had become tougher and stronger. I had the only way out – to move on with renewed vigor.
I came to the ISIDA clinic in the fall of 2014 with a thick folder of my medical history and a bunch of questions in my head. The doctor Ksenia Georgievna Khazhilenko quickly flipped through the pages, scanning them with her gaze, and just as quickly and talked a lot about my problem and possible methods of solving it. At the end of the lecture, she said that for the full picture, my husband and I need to undergo some examinations and come back with the result. Then I realized that I was not going anywhere from here. I was so impressed by the competence of the doctor and the level of the clinic.
In three years of “cooperation” with ISIDA, unfortunately, I lost another fifth pregnancy. But that didn’t stop me. My sixth pregnancy occurred under the strict supervision of the clinic’s doctors and with strict adherence to the algorithm of actions prescribed by the doctor. An uneasy struggle for the preservation of my dream immediately began. I carefully followed all the doctor’s appointments and instructions, and every day I passed was a small victory for me. And the fact that I gave birth at 41 weeks was a miracle for us!
So, on New Year’s Eve, at the 41st week of pregnancy, at almost 39 years old, by emergency caesarean section, I gave birth to a daughter who was named Vera! It was faith that kept me from giving up all these long years and stayed with me, despite all the problems. We were discharged from the hospital on December 31 with such a gift of fate under the Christmas tree.
For a long time I could not realize that I had borne and given birth to a child. For a long time there was a feeling that all this did not happen to me, but I was just having a dream. Everyone who found out about the birth of my daughter is asking if I would like to give birth again. The answer is yes, but only with the support of my doctor and ISIDA. In general, I thought that with ISIDA I went through a full “cycle”: I was preparing for pregnancy, got pregnant under her control, carried with her, gave birth, and now we are also being observed with my daughter. Such a kind of “ol inclusive” came out.
I told my story for women who find themselves in a similar situation. I want you to know that you are not alone, there is a certain percentage of us. It’s just that such trials have fallen to our lot and we have to pass them, and it’s worth it! I wish all of us health, strength, faith and goodness! I thank God for all the prayers that were heard and fate – for meeting with my doctor and ISIDA.”
Natalia believed, fought and won, so her story is an important example for those who, like her, overcome the problem of miscarriage. And those who are ready to give up already… Know that if you also encounter a similar problem, you can always get qualified help at the ISIDA Clinic’s Miscarriage Treatment Center. The colossal experience of our specialists, the use of advanced technologies and methods of treatment, as well as the belief in a successful result is what makes your long–awaited miracle appear, despite all forecasts and diagnoses.